Sorry for being MIA. Have had a lot going on but I promise to try harder next time. Promise .
So I recently went to Fiji for a wedding in the family. As most of you know, Fiji is motherland. I love going back, seeing my family and friends. Not crazy about the heat though. I kid you not, my feet swelled up from the heat and my sister thought I was bitten. All I could wear were jandles and have my hair in a bun 24/7.
Anyway, I enjoyed it though. Life is relaxing and peaceful there. I visited a few families and friends on this trip and I must say, it put a lot of things into perspective. I know everyone will say and think that this is life lesson 101, but I wear my heart on a sleeve. I guess that’s my fault but I do. I put in a lot of effort for my family and friends. I’m the friend they ring up at midnight when they are heartbroken, I’m the sister that spends lavishly without thinking twice, I’m also the friend who goes out of their way to help and accommodate for people I care about. But lately, Iv woken up to the realisation how selfish some people can be.
Dont get me wrong, I think everyone needs to be a little selfish in life. If you not, you cannot succeed. How? You know when you flying with an airline, and the video plays saying in an emergency should a mask drop in front of you, put your own mask on first before helping others. Why? Because what good would you be to someone else if you are not safe and able. So I get it, there are some aspects in life where one has to put themselves first. But every once in a while, it would be nice if you can think of someone else other than yourselves. Well that’s my motto at least – help others selflessly. But meeting old friends there, people Iv known almost all my life and kept in touch with all this time, being indifferent.
How does one go from being good mates, best friends almost to – oh hey I made plans? Yeah I’m just going to keep ignoring your calls and pretend we didn’t make plans to meet. Call me a child but I take this very personally. I know people grow up and go different ways, but when a friend, partner, sister, whatever, makes an effort to be in someone’s life, when they make an effort to put you first, it goes without saying that it needs to be reciprocated. You won’t be able to make everyone happy, but its basic human decency to do right by them, especially someone who has been there. I guess I grew up being to naive, too trusting. I mean just because I think and behave a certain way, doesn’t mean others will too right? But that’s exactly what’s wrong with the picture. In this day and age, it’s too easy to drift away, get occupied in social media, phone and work. When do we make time and effort for our loved ones and friends ?
I read a quote some time ago which got me thinking. If you can’t find a nice and kind person, be one.
I think about that a lot and go beyond helping others. But where do you draw the line? When does one say, ok that’s it.
Growing up, I was no stranger to ridicule and backbiting from my extended family. Heck for all I know they still do. But is that what life has come to? Constant comparison and belittling all to make one feel better? The world is filled with people who are rude, selfish and cruel people. Why add more to that?